Frases de Carl Rogers

“A apreciação dos outros não me serve de guia. Apenas uma pessoa pode saber que eu procedo com honestidade, com aplicação, com franqueza e com rigor, ou se o que faço é falso, defensivo e fútil. E essa pessoa sou eu mesmo. (Tornar-se Pessoa, pg.34).”

“É sempre altamente enriquecedor poder aceitar outra pessoa.”

“Descobri que sou mais eficaz quando posso ouvir a mim mesmo aceitando-me, e quando posso ser eu mesmo…. Julgo que aprendi isto com meus clientes, bem como através da minha experiência pessoal - não podemos mudar, não podemos afastar do que somos enquanto não aceitarmos profundamente o que somos. (Tornar-se Pessoa, pg.29.”

“É o cliente que sabe o que dói, que direções seguir, que problemas são cruciais, e que experiências estão imersas.”

“A única pessoa que é educada, é aquela que aprendeu a aprender, e a mudar.”

“Existe uma direcção, mas não um destino.”

“Os fatos são sempre amigos. O mínimo esclarecimento que consigamos obter, seja em que domínio for, aproxima-nos muita mais do que é a verdade. (tornar-se Pessoa, pg.36).”

“Atribuo um enorme valor ao fato de poder me permitir compreender uma outra pessoa.(Tornar-se Pessoa pg. 30).”

“Verifiquei que me enriquece abrir canais através dos quais os outros possam comunicar os seus sentimentos, a sua particular percepção do mundo. (Tornar-se Pessoa pg.31).”

“A vida, no que tem de melhor, é um processo que flui, que se altera e onde nada está fixado. (Tornar-se Pessoa, pg.38).”

“Penso que é possível agora ver claramente por que razão não existe filosofia, crença ou princípios que eu possa encorajar ou persuadir os outros a terem ou a alcançarem. não posso fazer mais do que tentar viver segundo a minha própria interpretação da presente significação da minha experiência, e tentar dar aos outros a permissão e a liberdade de desenvolverem a sua própria liberdade interior para que possam atingir uma interpretação significativa da sua própria experiência.(Tornar-se Pessoa, pg.39).”

“Aquilo que é mais pessoal é o que há de mais geral.(Toranr-se Pessoa, pg.37).”

“A experiência é para mim a autoridade suprema.(Tornar-se Pessoa, pg. 35).”

“Por aprendizagem significativa entendo uma aprendizagem que é mais do que uma acumulação de fatos. É uma aprendizagem que provoca uma modificação, quer seja no comportamento do indivíduo, na orientação futura que escolhe ou nas suas atitudes e personalidade. É uma aprendizagem penetrante, que não se limita a um aumento de conhecimentos, mas que penetra profundamente todas as parcelas da sua existência.”

“O ser humano tem a capacidade, latente ou manifesta, de compreender-se a si mesmo e resolver seus problemas de modo suficiente para alcançar a satisfação e eficácia necessárias ao funcionamento adequado.”

“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if I can let them be… When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, "Soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner"… I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.”

“The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

“What is most personal is most universal.”

“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me”

“There is direction but there is no destination.”

“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.”

“The degree to which I can create relationships, which facilitate the growth of others as separate persons, is a measure of the growth I have achieved in myself.”

“What I am is good enough, if I could just be it openly.”

“We cannot change, we cannot move away from what we are, until we thoroughly accept what we are. Then change seems to come about almost unnoticed.”

“If I let myself really understand another person, I might be changed by that understanding. And we all fear change. So as I say, it is not an easy thing to permit oneself to understand an individual”

“Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person's ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience. It is to experience that I must return again and again, to discover a closer approximation to truth as it is in the process of becoming in me. Neither the Bible nor the prophets -- neither Freud nor research -- neither the revelations of God nor man -- can take precedence over my own direct experience. My experience is not authoritative because it is infallible. It is the basis of authority because it can always be checked in new primary ways. In this way its frequent error or fallibility is always open to correction.”

“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”

“Am I living in a way which is deeply satisfying to me, and which truly expresses me?”

“It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.”

“a person is a fluid process, not a fixed and static entity; a flowing river of change, not a block of solid material; a continually changing constellation of potentialities, not a fixed quantity of traits.”

“Don't be the ammunition wagon, be the rifle … knowledge exists primarily for use.”

“Freedom from a desire to control the outcome, and respect for the capacity of the group, and skills in releasing individual expression”

“Allowance of the freedom of choices in direction, either for the group or individuals particularly in the near future”

“There is in every organism, at whatever level, an underlying flow of movement toward constructive fulfillment of its inherent possibilities.”

“Facilitative attitudes (and skills) can help a therapist gain entry into the group”

“Acceptance of the problems experienced by the group where they are clearly defined as issues”

“The very essence of the creative is its novelty, and hence we have no standard by which to judge it.”

“Managers today come up against a few more communication barriers. One is the pressure of time. Listening carefully takes time, and managers have little of that to spare. In today’s business culture especially, with its emphasis on speed, already pressed managers may give short shrift to the slower art of one-on-one communication.”

“If we value independence, if we are disturbed by the growing conformity of knowledge, of values, of attitudes, which our present system induces, then we may wish to set up conditions of learning which make for uniqueness, for self-direction, and for self-initiated learning.”

“Openness to all attitudes no matter how extreme or unrealistic they may seem”

“I have gradually come to one negative conclusion about the good life. It seems to me that the good life is not any fixed state. It is not, in my estimation, a state of virtue, or contentment, or nirvana, or happiness. It is not a condition in which the individual is adjusted or fulfilled or actualized. To use psychological terms, it is not a state of drive-reduction, or tension-reduction, or homeostasis”